August 30, 2010

Freshman Registration

This past Friday I took Lil C to the high school to get his asb card, pre-pay for the yearbook, take the yearbook photos, buy spirit wear and p.e. clothes and get the class schedule. Yes, you read that all correctly. Hi, my name is Banjo, and I am the proud? parent of a freshman in hish school........ don't mind the incredulous look you see on my face, or the sadness in my heart.

I know this is a huge rite of passage for him. As we were driving to the school I reminded him that he should be thankful I did not bring my camera with me. We got in line, with all the other freshman boys and girls, and several parents. We were 3rd from the cashier when my phone goes off. "Party in the USA" by Miley Cyrus plays loudly from my phone as CHB was calling me. I talk with her while we are waiting in line. When I hang up, I look over to Lil C, and he is ready to melt in to the floor boards. He says, and I quote "Mom, turn your phone off. Please. Turn it off ok?"

I look to the mom behind me in line and we both start to laugh. I told Lil C that I am not turning my phone off. Why should he be embarrased by me? I reminded him again that I COULD HAVE brought my camera and photo documented the entire process........ he rolled his eyes. I also told him that if he thought that was mortifying wait until the first day of school. I will pack his lunch and take him to his first class of the day and take pictures of him at his desk.

By this time, the mom of the kids in line behind us is laughing so hard, and both her son and Lil C look at us like we have completely lost our marbles. Lil C says to me, "But Mom, you will ruin my reputation!" Really? You are 14. What kind of rep do you have for a school you haven't even attended yet? I keep thinking to myself that I should just do it to spite him..... I also volunteered to chaperone a dance and to be classroom mom if he would prefer? I got the look of death......

I remember going with my mom for freshman orientation and I dont remember being embarrased quite so easily. I can only hope that as he matures that he realizes he can not be embarrased by me. He can only own what HE does, the mistakes HE makes and the actions HE takes.

I wish him very well in this new stage of his young life. I hope he makes the most of his high school years. If that is the ONE SINGLE regret I have for those 4 precious years: I would have been more involved.

August 27, 2010


I love to take pictures. Granted, I am not very good at it YET but I am learning new stuff every day! Here are some of my favorite shots from the last few months.....

I love that Lil C had a great time digging in the sand, even though he didn't really want to go.

Oh, to be 7 again. And NOT care that there is sand in every crevice, nook and cranny of your body.

When can I move here? Here is what is missing from this photo: cool drink in hand, rear planted in a beach chair with a great book on my lap.

I love that Doodle is still young enough to just be silly.

At my recent visit to Heather's house. Cute little Buhner.......

Harbor cruise through Jetty Island..........

Lighthouse View from the ferry.

Birthday flowers from PB

Hope you enjoyed the photos as much as I did.

August 26, 2010

The Dating Game

When you first meet someone of the opposite sex, you are on your best behavior, or at least you would like to think/hope you are. I hear guys and girls say how they try to make a good impression on the first date, but also how they maintain that level of "good behavior" throughout the first few months.

So, I am the complete opposite, or so I like to believe. I am who I say I am, and I really try not to be any different with men, women, small children or animals when I first meet them! There are a few exceptions to the rule: at the office (being I am paid to be nice) and in certain social situations where it is required to scale myself back.

The reason I even bring this up is I find myself in a very unique position. Background is this: I spent several years being told I was an embarrassment because I was too loud, too opionated, too obnoxious. I have worked REALLY. REALLY. hard in the last 18 months to negate some of that feeling and to work on loving myself for who and what I am. I think I have made great strides....... and then reality sets in.

How much, and how soon, do you share yourself, and all parts of your life with someone you have just met? I want to be that girl who can stand on the roof top and shout to all below that I AM OK WITH WHO I AM, but I also want to be the girl who is not rejected for it either? Is there any middle ground on this? I don't want to feel ashamed about who/what/why I am how I am, and I don't want to change myself to make ANYONE else happy. So, I guess I have answered my own question? I think? 

The scariest part is putting your WHOLE self out there and hoping the other person likes/loves/wants more of you. Here I go. Taking a HUGE leap of faith. Knowing that I am ok and perfectly imperfect.

August 24, 2010

A little bit of this and a little bit of that..........

I have been seeing the same guy for just about 6 weeks now. It has been great so far, however I have been reluctant to post about it. Not wanting to jinx it and all that ya know? As with everyone that we meet, the peeps have given him a nickname; wait for it...... Pajama Boy. Nice right? Whatever works.......

I will say that I have never been treated so well by a guy in MY ENTIRE LIFE. (That's not saying much if you factor in my age, how long I was married, etc....) It is a completely novel concept to me that someone would just want to take care of everything, and I mean almost feel like I have my own personal genie, like the scene in Aladdin where the genie says "poof, what do ya need?"

A couple of weekends ago we took a road trip to Deception Pass. Located on be-a-utiful Whidbey Island, just a short drive from Mtown. It was too hot, 94 degrees to be exact, to be sitting around in the house. Grabbed some road snacks and settled back in to the air conditioned truck. Now for those of you who know me, I AM NOT A PASSENGER. I am always the driver. There are very few exceptions to this rule. CHB and Moxie can drive me around town but that is pretty much it. I will not ride with CHB's hubby (Bushwacker). He is WAY to aggressive behind the wheel!

Anyway, the deal was struck that I would let PB drive and I would let him know if I couldnt take anymore and then he would pull over and let me drive. Well, drum roll please?????? I made it the entire 90 minutes without having to ask to drive! Can you even stand it? I was a little excited, truth be told, to be able to actually take pictures as he drove. I NEVER get to do that because I'm always driving. Go figure? When we got out at the bridge at Deception Pass here are some of the great shots I took:

That is PB........ (and that's all you get for now!)

Not much room to walk on the path but the view is sooooooo worth it.
The weather was perfect. There was a nice breeze off the water and the sun reflecting off the water was so pretty.

We had taken the long way there, driving around and then taking the ferry back. As we headed south towards the ferry we passed some things that caught my eye:

The U-Pick farm outside Coupeville.
As we headed in to Oak Harbor, a Navy town, there was Old Glory flying proudly.
So, which kid gets to sleep in the front corner room? And what kind of deal did they have to make to get it? Or was it a birth order thing, and always went to the oldest sibling?
Seriously? Tee-pee's in the middle of a field in the middle of nowhere.........
This particular place we stopped and I was flooded with memories. A good friend of mine has a cabin on the island and we spent most of the summer there every year all through high school. This store, which is about 10 miles or so from the cabin, is where we would go to get candy and supplies.......
It looks about the same from the outside. Opening the heavy wooden door to head inside was like stepping back in time. Good memories there.....

As we approached the ferry dock, this is the sign I saw:
And I thought to myself: just another example of the State trying to cover their ass while at the same time not wanting to be held accountable for anything. Why bother to put the sign there at all? Dont you think we can tell by the line up of cars in front of us that we are gonna have to wait a while?
We finally got on the boat, headed home. It is a short 20 minute ride across the water so I wasn't able to take that many pictures.........
As we pulled in to the dock, here was the last thing I captured:
We headed for PB's house from the ferry dock. All in all it was an excellent day. AND a huge milestone for me. I made it ALL the way there and ALL the way back without being reduced in to a anxiety- ridden mess on the floor board of his truck.

August 9, 2010

July 2010 Review

So I have a little bit of guilt that I have not been as diligent about posting as I should be. Even though none of you are "yelling" at me, I still feel guilty......

July has certainly been an interesting month for me! I have broken it in to categories:

Hee Haw: Seriously???? When is he gonna get the clue that I dont fall for his crap anymore? AND when is he going to understand that I am no longer a doormat he can wipe his feet on?

We only communicate via text message and email now and I have to say that is MOST liberating! Thanks to CHB's mom for this advice! I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders because I choose to no longer deal with his ranting and raving.

Doodle's School: So lat you heard I was going to fight Hee Haw on which school to put Doodle in. Well, I have now decided to leave her at her "home" school and cross my fingers that she gets in to 10th Street School. Also, I think it is super important for Doodle to be at the same school as her bestie PIA so that is an added bonus to her going to her "home" school.

Dating: Men are confusing. No, seriously! They say that we are the ones who are not honest and forthright? Give me a break! July started on a crappy note with the dating scene. Seemed every which way I turned I was getting the run around. I decided the best policy was not to get my hopes up about ANYTHING a guy says and that way I will have way less dissapointment. Seems logical right? Well not even 1/2 way through the month I met someone. We shall see where it goes. Dont want to jinx it. All I will say is that I am having fun ok?

Best thing this month so far? Road trip with CHB on the ferry taking and picking the girls up from camp! Add to that Big Brother and Jersey Shore started in July? Good stuff..........

August 5, 2010

Ferry Fun

CHB and I took the girls out to camp a few weeks ago, and we get to ride the ferry home. It is a gorgeous 1 hour ferry ride and I wanted to share some of the awesome photos I got. I wish I was able to zoom in closer BUT the lens I want is not in the budget right now. (One more thing to be added to the tax return list!)

I love me a road trip with CHB and it was an absolute perfect weather day for it!