May 24, 2010

5th Grade Field Trip

Yesterday I went with Doodle and the 5th graders from her school to the San Juan Islands. We were there to learn about The Pig War and of course enjoy a ferry ride along the way!

After waking up at 5:30am, which is almost 2 hours early for me, I arrived at the school, got my instructions from the teacher, grabbed Moxie Crimefighter (who was my co-pilot for the day) and hit the road! The best part about going on this fieldtrip was NOT having ANY children in my car!

We get up to the ferry dock, and after some goofing around, and a 50 minute wait, make our way to American Camp.

We arrive at American Camp, and it is a gorgeous day. After the downpour we had the day before I was a little worried. Here are PIA and I in the parking lot getting ready to head out to the Captain's Quarters of George Pickett.

We meet the AWESOME Park Ranger Fred, who regales us with the story of what happened.

Here he is with Doodle at the main entrance. So anyway, Ranger Mike comes in, and as he fills us in on some of the other local stories, he reminds us how important The Pig War was, and how if Lyman Cutlar had not shot the pig and I quote "like BLAM! Bacon!" we would not be here today! He changed the course of history........ I thought it was a great way for the kids to have it become personal for them.

We then headed off to English Camp for some grub and small hike up to the gravesite of the fallen soldiers. They also had a beautiful English garden.

We got back to the ferry dock, with an hour to wait. Got the kids some ice cream and Moxie and I wandered around the little shops........ found some great shell rings! Rocked out to Dirty Dancing soundtrack on the way home. All in all it was a great field trip!

It was nice to see Doodle's teacher outside the classroom. He is good people. I know Doodle has learned a lot from him and I am just thanking him over and over for the commitment he makes to our children and their learning process.

May 19, 2010

Miss me?

Yeah, I have been thinking about you too. This has been a very crazy couple of weeks for me. I have my full time job, then my Census job, add to that the children's soccer, and the Girl Scout troop and activities AND trying to date: WHEW!

Since I have been out of the dating game for SOOOOO many years, there are so many things that feel brand new to me. (Truth be told, some of them are!) Here are some that I have a hard time wrapping my head around:

Why do guys assume ALL girls play head games?

If I can be honest and upfront, why can't you?

Being a modern woman, I want to pay for my share of the date. Why is it so hard for guys to accept that? Do they think just because I agreed to go to dinner, or grab a drink with them, that it automatically means they have to pay?

Should I call/text/email or should I wait?

Why do these things run through my head? BECAUSE I am a woman! As a good friend recently told me: it's not enough to be the one who gets a period; we also "get" to birth the children. As if that was not enough, we get to dissect and talk out all things men related to death!!!

Thanks to CHB for "guiding" me through this process. I know I should just listen to you in the first place, but some things I need to find out on my own. Sometimes just saying it out loud allows me to confirm what I already knew in my heart. You are the best friend a girl could ask for. Seriously!

May 12, 2010

You want me to do what?

So I get a phone call from HEE HAW yesterday while the chitlins and I are en-route to soccer. I hate that I even have to answer the phone when he calls, but that is another topic altogether!

So he asks if I am alone and have a minute to talk. "Uh, no! We are on our way to soccer. What is it?" And then he lays the mother of them on me. Wait for it, wait for it: He says, and I quote, "When are you planning on changing your last name?"

Uhm, let me see. How about never? Or when hell freezes over?

So I say to him: "Do you not remember standing in front of the judge with me when he asked if I was changing my name? And I responded that I was not? Besides the face that I want to have the same last name as my children, and everything for me professionally is under this last name, not to mention the cost associated with changing it all!"

He responds with: "Well how much does it cost?" So I think to myself, why ask that? It is not like you are going to pay for it? I don't care of it costs $5 or $5000 to change my name. I am not doing it!

If I had never met you before and decided I wanted your last name as my own, there would have been nothing you could have done to stop me so what's the big deal? Or is this just another attempt to control me? Another way to cut me out of "your" family's life if I don’t have the same name anymore? Or is your girlfriend just not happy with the fact that when you get married to, provided she gets divorced first, that she will have the same last name as me?

How about you pay for me to change my last name, and then you can pay for the kids to get their last name changed too. Think that would go over well?

Guess what, jackass? You can NOT control me! I am not backing down. I am growing more of a backbone every day when it comes to you. I am not going to pushed around or made to feel bad because YOU don't like something I have done.

Have to tell you: such a liberating feeling!

May 6, 2010

Marco? Polo?

Wonder where I've been?

Can't say I haven't thought about all of you and felt a wave of obligation to update you all........ but I have been to freakin' busy!

I have been busy working for the Census, which is so great! It is really interesting to get out and meet people and talk with them. So far everyone that I have knocked on the door of has been pretty friendly.....

Doodle and Lil C are immersed in soccer. Doodle plays Monday's and Wednesdays and Lil C plays Tuesdays and Thursdays. Lil C really likes being back in soccer after playing ball for so many years. In fact, he just mentioned to me that he would like to play fall soccer instead of baseball. Weird.........

If you remember from this post, Doodle did not make in to 10th Street school. (Update: we are currently 13th on the list since some kids went in to the Hi-Cap program. PIA is #11.) She now has the opportunity to go in to the Co-Op program at one of the 3 middle schools in Mtown. I went to the meeting to find out more info about it and when I presented it to HEE HAW he said no way no how.

I am so frustrated with this attitude. I honestly feel like this would be an AWESOME opportunity for our daughter: as a Co-Op program they get to take more fieldtrips; they get money thrown at them by the state; they get more personal class time - not only with the teacher but with the classroom parents. HEE HAW is so dead set against it that he will not even listen to the benefits of the program. I reminded him this was to be a joint decision and he said no matter what I said I would not change his mind....... hmmm. Interesting. So what he is telling me is this: since HEE HAW does not agree with me he is essentially making the decision for Doodle? HEE HAW replies, YES. Nice.

Now I have to figure out if this matter is worth the time or energy to go through mediation about. They have 3rd party mediators, for a fee, that will hear both sides and help settle the issue. Maybe that will motivate HEE HAW to listen since he would have to pay his portion of the mediator's fee as well as me! I will keep you all posted on where this goes.

In the meantime, cross your fingers for me that my relationship with Lil C improves. He is at a very impressionable age and testing the limits as much as possible. Does not help that HEE HAW undermines my authority every chance he gets.