May 12, 2010

You want me to do what?

So I get a phone call from HEE HAW yesterday while the chitlins and I are en-route to soccer. I hate that I even have to answer the phone when he calls, but that is another topic altogether!

So he asks if I am alone and have a minute to talk. "Uh, no! We are on our way to soccer. What is it?" And then he lays the mother of them on me. Wait for it, wait for it: He says, and I quote, "When are you planning on changing your last name?"

Uhm, let me see. How about never? Or when hell freezes over?

So I say to him: "Do you not remember standing in front of the judge with me when he asked if I was changing my name? And I responded that I was not? Besides the face that I want to have the same last name as my children, and everything for me professionally is under this last name, not to mention the cost associated with changing it all!"

He responds with: "Well how much does it cost?" So I think to myself, why ask that? It is not like you are going to pay for it? I don't care of it costs $5 or $5000 to change my name. I am not doing it!

If I had never met you before and decided I wanted your last name as my own, there would have been nothing you could have done to stop me so what's the big deal? Or is this just another attempt to control me? Another way to cut me out of "your" family's life if I don’t have the same name anymore? Or is your girlfriend just not happy with the fact that when you get married to, provided she gets divorced first, that she will have the same last name as me?

How about you pay for me to change my last name, and then you can pay for the kids to get their last name changed too. Think that would go over well?

Guess what, jackass? You can NOT control me! I am not backing down. I am growing more of a backbone every day when it comes to you. I am not going to pushed around or made to feel bad because YOU don't like something I have done.

Have to tell you: such a liberating feeling!


Crazy Mom of 2! said...

You go girl... I am amazed by you and your strength... much love sent your way!!!

CHB said...

Seriously, what is he thinking? My favorite line was "why do you want to have MY last name?" You so need to get t-shirts made that say "Ms. STARKENBURG" and wear them every time you see him! Jack *ss!!!!

Saralee said...
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Amber said...

Wow Jo! I wouldn't change my name either. I'd want to have the same last name as my kids.