May 21, 2014

Could have had a V8.

Relationships are tricky things yo. This is NOT new info to anyone.

Here is what IS new to me:

Since my last relationship, I have had a few people come to me, wanting to talk about him. No prob right? RIGHT. Except some of the revelations have been interesting, to say the least. 

Its like now that I am no longer with him, the peoples are not afraid to say how they REALLY felt about him. Which I get. And appreciate. But it is still surprising.

I have heard:
You were so disrespected
You were taken advantage of
You did too much for him
I never got a good vibe from him

Sometimes I think when in a relationship, its impossible to see the forest for the trees. Call it blinded by love/lust/attention, or whatever you want, but its easy to get wrapped up in the rush of feelings and let some things fall aside that shouldn't.
As every relationship ends, you learn something new. Your convictions, or lines in the sand, are made THAT much clearer to you. What you WILL and WONT accept gets clarified yet again. But when I realize that I fell back in to a similar rabbit hole as the last time? I realize I should have had a V8.
I can not be alone in this thinking. I MAY be alone in saying it OUT LOUD. That's ok. When you realize your V8 moment? Just know that this girl is here, and this girl will understands. Call me, we can trade stories and laugh at ourselves over a LARGE and in charge glass of wine.

May 19, 2014

Mothers Day 2014

I had a double dose of Mother's Day this year. Mom and I live about 300 miles apart. So we met halfway between our houses for lunch on Saturday.
It was GREAT! Mom, Grandma, myself and Doodle. 4 generations of the women in my fam damily dining together!
We all showed up dressed in the same colors!
The older I get, the more I cherish my relationship with my mom. She is SERIOUSLY the classiest lady I know. Growing up, we did NOT see eye to eye (imagine that). I was a defiant, stubborn, moody teenager. I don't know how she didn't kill me.
Now that I have had children of my own, I am just thankful she doesn't give my cherubs ideas on how to misbehave, or make my life hell.
She gives the BEST advice. Hands down. She will listen to whatever you are talking about, and pull out these little nuggets of wisdom that you have failed to see, or have glossed over.
Mom and I spend more time talking and connecting then we ever have in the past and I. LOVE. IT.
4 generations!  
Momacita and Doodle

On Sunday, I hosted a high tea for Moxie and I. Doodle made some desserts and prepared the fruit tray.
Of course Moxie and I started off with mimosa's.
I got some great selfies with my chitlins.
Woke up to a sweet card from my peeps and a beautiful bunch of tulips. My favorite flower!
Lil C and I 
Doodle and I
All in all, a GREAT Mother's Day weekend!

May 6, 2014

Non Judgemental My Ass

I know you are all dying to hear more dating escapades, and this one I just KNEW you all would love!

This idiot messaged a friend of mine. His profile was so SPECIAL, I had to share it with you all. This is just a brief glimpse in to what this guy is putting out there. Read it first, and then lets discuss.......mmmkkk?

Hello Ladies,
I'm looking for passionate, beautiful , honest , intelligent, clean, creative, funny, goal oriented, kinky , peaceful in mind and heart woman.. No drugs; 420 okay; social drinker OK. No Smokers please.I am seeking a companion that likes the outdoors whether it's running the streets of downtown Seattle or a trip to Portland, to hiking, biking, camping, or snowshoeing in the Cascades. Let's have fun. Maybe a movie or theater? A drink? Coffee? Tea? Wine? Beer?So, lets be silly, laugh, have fun, listen to music, dance, go to a movie. Let's be ourselves and enjoy each others company .

What I am looking for is something long term I being in monogamous relationship as we'll poly and open relationship I do prefer poly and open relationship but not oppose to monogamous relationship for the right person It happened in the past . I am very open-minded , kind , outgoing , loveable , polite and very respectful , looking for my other soul mate and partner in crime. I love movies (action, suspense , comedy and Disney), video games, reading, window shopping, exploring new restaurants . I like to have a positive outlook on life, even when things are going wrong. My favorite phrase is "Don't stress about things you cannot change." I'm a bit of a smart ass at times, love to make jokes and see a woman laugh and smile .

I'm not picky about age, weight or race but please note I am 30 m black 6.1 black hair brown eye's 155 lbs ( I used to be 260lbs a 18 months ago I work out and want to stay fit and need a partner in the same mind set ) . I'm non judge mental, outgoing and hope to find my missing puzzle piece . What I am looking for in a woman is some one confident , smart , big heart , open minded , family oriented and kinky . I have being divorced twice still friends with both of my ex wifes; I guess I am a sucker for love I do see my self being married and have a family one day; not too many peopple say that but we are good friends honesty is very important to me .
(Side note: I did not edit this for spelling or grammar. I took it as it was)

There are so many things wrong with this, I don't even know WHERE to start. Oh wait, yes I do.

What I didn't share was that he has the BIGGEST ears I have ever seen on a guy. They seriously stick out a good 4 inches from his head. Any bigger and you could legitimately call him Dumbo........ because he could achieve flight with those things.

Now, taking his monster ears out of the picture for a moment......... I find his LIST of qualities that he thinks his woman needs to possess to be a bit overwhelming. It feels like he is shopping for a car, instead of looking for a relationship. He wants this feature and that feature and this stereo and that interior........ and he pays GREAT attention to the outside package. Don't get me wrong, we all want to be attracted to our mate, but this guy (read douche waffle) is really more interested in what a girl LOOKS like, and not what is in her mind, her heart, her soul.
Instead of finding someone to love, most likely he is turning women off AND away with his list of must have attributes and behaviors. And when you read the "about him" section? If you got past the first couple of paragraphs? You see that he smokes (but he doesn't want you to).
If you got past the LIST, you see that he has been married and divorced TWICE.... not a horrible thing. Unless you factor in that this dude is only 30 years old. Red flags anyone???
And the absolute BEST line from his profile? I am hoping you agree with me here: "I'm non judge mental". Yeah, ok. Because that what I took from your laundry list of qualities. Good luck dumbass, finding that ONE person in the world who read past all of that ridiculous drivel and STILL decide you are worthy of a date with THEM.
I am so tempted to message this ass hat, and attempt to set him straight. And then I realize what a GIGANTIC waste of time that would be. My advice, or that of any other SANE woman, would surely fall on deaf ears. Even his Dumbo sized ones.